Chapter 9: The Role of Family and Friends in Shaping Your Habits
“The culture we live in determines which behaviors are attractive to us.”
“We tend to adopt habits that are praised and approved of by our culture because we have a strong desire to fit in and belong to the tribe.”
“We tend to imitate the habits of three social groups: the close (family and friends), the many (the tribe), and the powerful (those with status and prestige).”
“One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where (1) your desired behavior is the normal behavior and (2) you already have something in common with the group.”
“The normal behavior of the tribe often overpowers the desired behavior of the individual. Most days, we’d rather be wrong with the crowd than be right by ourselves.”
“If a behavior can get us approval, respect, and praise, we find it attractive.”
This chapter title was the one that really caught my eye from the table of contents.
Family, friends, and “tribe” are extremely influential in our (and our children, as Julie pointed out) behavior and success.
I have awesome friends and “Tribe” groups that I surround myself with. It’s the family part that I allow to interfere with my “systems”. I have said to one family member on occasions “your Eeyore is interfering with my Tigger”